My mom and I are not in good terms for the past few days. I really hate the fact that we are fighting over money. I mentioned that I received my first salary last Friday and I was happy that I will be able to contribute something at home. I gave my mother my share and I was surprised by her reaction.
We never talked about the amount of cash I will contribute at home, but she expressed how disappointed she was when I gave her the money. Her exact words were, “Kulang pa ito, ha!” (“This is not enough!”) It felt like a sharp echo in my ears, and I was hurt. I gave her 1/4 of my salary, which is already a big fraction because 2/4 is budgeted for my 2 weeks pocket money to and from work, and the remaining 1/4 is my extra money.
I was am really hurt and disappointed. Until now, she isn’t speaking to me properly. She acts like I do not exist. When I talk to her, she wouldn’t answer, or would act irritated. I tried to talk to my father about it and he just said that I should ask God for guidance and talk to my mother. God knows I’ve tried to talk to her, but she treats me like a leper. I even wish I never started working again. This isn’t a new scenario. This has happened before. My salary before was twice as much as I earn now, and I gave her 3x as much money compared to now, but even then, she would tell me it’s not enough.I am not obligated to give her any money. I gave her a part of my salary to help reduce their burden on paying our bills, not to provide her with extra money. A part of what she said was, “I don’t have any bonus?” I wanted to make a rude remark, but I bit my lip to stop me from making the argument longer. My sister already gives her a wad of cash twice a month, but her salary is 3x more than mine. I wish she wouldn’t treat me like I am selfish because I know I am not. Besides, it’s just the first half of the month!
This is really aggravating me. :(
I joined Plurk.com. I wonder if it will beat Twitter…
Uh, I’m not sure how to react on this.
Well, I guess, you should try to find a way to talk about this issue and settle everything that has to be settled. And of course, just like what your Dad suggested, you should seek for God’s guidance.
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i do understand you dre, sometimes ganyan din mom ko pero minsan iniintindi ko na lang, siguro nadadala lang siya sa hirap ng buhay ngayon, dahil siya ang nagbubudget sa bahay. nakakainis talaga kung minsan kasi instead na makarinig tayo ng thankU ay nagrereklamo pa. pero buti ngayon okey na kami sa ganyang bagay, kinausao ko siya ng ayos at isa pa lahat naman ng gastos dito sa bahay namin budgeted na at binibigay talaga lahat ng dad ko. sinasabi ko na lang talaga sa kanya atleast ngayon may sarili na akong pera at hindi na nahingi ng kahit na magkano sa kanila, which is a big help na db.
Yeah, that is difficult. I dealt with the same thing with my mom. I’m like trying to contribute, but she’s complaining that she still doesn’t have enough. And even with me not living there anymore, complaining that I left her with the bills and such. But like, what am I supposed to do? Give her my whole salary? Uh uh, I can’t do that. I’ve got bills of my own, you see. But yeah, I know you’re struggle. I’ve been there too.